Most Commonly Asked Question

I thought I should write a post answering the question that we are getting asked over and over again.

"So are you going to have triplets?"

The answer is: No. We are adopting three embryos which means that we are the parents/ gauradians/owners of them, but we will not transfer all three. John and I are giving our doctor consent to transfer one embryo on November 18. What most people think (thanks to the media and Octomom) is that the doctor transfers as many embryos as you want. Actually all normal/sane doctors will transfer up to 2 embryos at a time. We know we can't handle twins for our first pregnancy, so we know we can only transfer one. Now, it should also be known that one embryo can split into identical twins, just like in any pregancy, so there is always a slight chance of that happening!

The way it works is that a day or so before the transfer, the clinic will thaw one embryo. If it survives, we will transfer that embryo on Friday, the 18th. If it doesn't survive the thaw (please pray that it does!), they will thaw one or two more (it depends on how the embryos are stored together). Any one that survives the thaw will be transfer. If there is a surviving embryo that we don't transfer, we will ask to have it cryopreserved (frozen) again. If we get pregnant (again, please pray!), we will save this little one until we are ready to have our second child. If we don't get pregnant, we will use the remaining embryo for another try when we are ready. If there are two remaining embryos, we will evaluate at that point whether we transfer one or two. We'll see at that point how we are feeling about twins/pregnancy/raising children etc.

Hopefully, that makes sense to everyone! Survival rates are not 100% for the thaw, but we are praying that they all do survive and get a chance at life whether that is next month or in five years from now!